Education, empowerment and problem-solving are our primary objectives;
To meet personalized needs for meaningful, solution-based methods for individuals and couples to find resolution ~ mind and body.
Stronger Relationships
Relationship always involve give and take.
One key to successful relationships is what you put in and what you take out. The more you give the stronger the relationship becomes. You can give by:
1. Doing acts of kindness. Courtesy, helpfulness, support, active listening, smiling!!
2. Keep promises. Truth and follow-thru. Trust. Even casual or small promises should be kept.
3. Expectations- honor them. Keep them clear, acknowledge them.
4. Be loyal. Speak kindly of others. People know you will to them what you do to others.
5. Take responsibility and apologize for mistakes. We all make ‘em. Be natural and truthful. Pretenses are misleading and alienating.
Relationship Fair Fighting Rules
Relationships that last take work. Lots of hard work. Below are some rules that you can use when you and your significant other have a disagreement.
1. Fight by mutual consent
Don’t insist on a fight at a time when one of you can’t handle this type of strain. A good fight demands two ready participants.
2. Stick to the present Don’t dredge up past mistakes and faults about which you can do nothing.
3. Stick to the subject Limit this fight to this subject. Don’t throw every other problem into it; take them at a different time.
4. Don’t hit below the belt In your lives together you discover each other’s sensitive areas. Don’t throw them at each other.
5. Don’t quit; work it out Bring the fight to a mutual conclusion. Otherwise it will just recur again and again.
6. Don’t try to win, ever If one wins, the other loses and begins to build resentment about the relationship. That destroys rather than builds the relationship.
7. Respect crying
It is a valid response to how we feel, but don’t let crying sidetrack you. It can be a response for men as well as women. It is not always controllable and may release stress.
8. Avoid verbal abuse Threats, sarcasm, accusations, blackmail, putdowns, make reconciliation very difficult. Be proud of your words.
9. No physical violence This is absolutely forbidden. Deal breaker.
10. If all else fails, get help When arguments consistently violate any of the above rules, it’s time to get help.
Remember, a fight between partners has the purpose of clearing the air and expressing deep feelings in order to build a more unified life. Keep your goal in mind --- the goal of sharing your lives with each other.
If you are ready to stop fighting and start problem solving, SideWays can help. SideWays offers a non-judgmental, supportive forum for couples to talk & explore conflict resolution. Discover how good you can be together.
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